SELF - TRUST
What does it mean to truly trust in yourself?
What does that look like?
What would be possible for you and the planet, if you were to trust in yourself completely?
I don’t know about you but sometimes I find myself saying I’m going to do something and then when the time comes to do it - I go through a whole negotiation / excuse / bargaining thing. If I’m being honest it is mostly related to working out…
We think, “Oh it doesn’t matter, no one will know.” Sorry to be the bearer of bad news but, no. You do. Your heart, mind, and soul. They always know. And they don’t forget.
When we negotiate with ourselves we cultivate a pattern of mistrust and betrayal. Negotiating with yourself means negating your intuition and intelligence. Also, negotiating with your self is EXHAUSTING! Think of the many times you haven’t been able to make a decision. Should I go to the party? Maybe I just won’t show? Maybe i’ll call and make up a lie? Why did I even say I would go in the first place? Ok, i’ll just go for a bit and then leave. It is a complete hemorrhage of your precious energy.
Negotiations are a way of temporarily believing our own lies, but we cannot lie to ourselves. Negotiations can look like excuses, stories, justifications, rationalizations, or breaking commitments to yourself.
What we don’t realize is that all of those back and forth, bargaining and reasoning moments lead us to down the path of MISTRUST and SELF-BETRAYAL. No wonder we feel confused, second guess our choices, or are even fearful of making choices in the first place.
So here’s a trigger question: Do you keep you word to yourself?
SELF-TRUST has been a topic I’ve been discussing a lot lately with my clients. “How do I learn to trust myself?” They ask. Naturally, I answer the question with a question, “Well, how do build trust in another human being?” For starters, they do what they say they are gonna do. They show up when you need them. They keep their word.
Now what would be possible if you flipped that around on yourself?
5 Ways to cultivate Self-Trust:
LOOK WITHIN : take time to be alone and be with yourself - DAILY.
LISTEN TO YOUR INTUITION : we all have an inner compass, but we don’t all know how to listen to it. Practice listening to your inner guide, your gut instincts, and what you know is true in your heart of hearts.
TAKE RISKS : small or big, risks are like little trust falls you can create with yourself.
KEEP YOUR WORD TO YOURSELF : if you say you’re gonna do it, get in touch with why it’s even important in the first place! Then if it’s important still, stick to your guns.
DO NOT NEGOTIATE WITH YOUR VALUES : While we all may have similar values, your values are unique to you. When we honor someone else’s values over your own (consistently), you create a cycle of mistrust within yourself. Identify your core values and see to it that your choices reflect those values.