CHOICE AND CONSEQUENCE

What would be possible if we all agreed (right now) to stop complaining about our lives for like... a week?   What would be the impact? 

I have been on a lot of group chats and been part of many zoom discussions during this pandemic in which there has been a lot of complaining going on. And if I’m being honest I am finding myself complaining about very petty things as well. While it’s SUPER important to express our emotions during this time of incredible hardship, it seems like there is some confusion about venting about our experience and living in a state of constant frustration and resentment. One thing that can help make the distinction is : CONSEQUENCE. 

What we forget is that every single choice we make has consequences. This is a big moment for us to begin to take responsibility for our lives. Meaning face the consequences. For your choices, thoughts, words and actions. They all have consequences. And I hate to break it to you but you heart, your body, your soul, (your kids and pets) hear and feel everything you do and say- we can’t get away with shit! Maybe if we took a long hard look at the consequences of our actions, we could live a life that we didn’t have to complain about?

In some ways, we were moving way too fast to even consider the consequences. The effect of all the causes. In fact, we have never made/ produced consequences as fast as we were making them pre - pandemic. Think about it, to send a letter to someone it could have taken days to get to them. Then another few more days to even get the response or spring you into action. Now, we fire off emails, texts, and are even able to communicate with MILLIONS OF PEOPLE at the same time! The consequences of our actions are happening faster and faster… and I can’t help but wonder, are we even ready to face our shit?

Even though we are reading more, learning more and acquiring more information than ever before, we still don’t always hold ourselves or others responsible for even the smallest actions. We are doing our best to be more amore conscious but instead we have become more and more fragile and sensitive. We have become more conscious and less conscientious.

We are all being sequestered in our homes because of the pandemic - yes. But ultimately I feel like we are being grounded so we have a chance to clean up our acts. HINT: it’s an inside job. Not just the actions we take in relationship to others but more in relationship to ourselves. What impact does your complaining really have on YOU? We have a chance now to get over how we look on the outside and tend to our inner worlds. And for those of you that just rolled your eyes because you’re too busy, or “self- work” is only for people that have the luxury of time - NO this is not selfish or a luxury  - IT ESSENTIAL. As the old saying goes, if you don’t have time to meditate 20 min a day, then you should meditate for an hour a day. 

The words for health and healing come from a word that means to MAKE WHOLE. We have been living fragmented and fractured lives and now is our chance to begin put the pieces together. How have we been living fractured lives you ask? We feel one thing and say another, we say one thing and do another. We have a shit day and we post a cute photo pretending everything is “A-OK.” We get an idea from someone and “forget” to give credit where credit it DUE. 

This is not to say that we aren’t meant to contradict ourselves. We are. We are walking paradoxes and changing our minds all the time. However, congruency is more available to us now than ever before because we get to slow the fuck down and let some of our past choices catch up with us. We are seeing the result of staying in that relationship too long because you don’t have date nights and boxes of chocolates to distract you from the fractured parts of your relationship. We are seeing the consequences of abandoning ourselves because we are BORED out of our minds and don’t even know how to BE WITH OURSELVES. We are seeing that even in a pandemic as we are tucked away in our homes living our own personal groundhog day’s, we are still doing the same thing and expecting a different result.

So what do we do?

Be grateful for moments of grace & take responsibility for your problems. And can we please, oh please, stop blaming other people for our feelings??? If there is anything our president is teaching us right now, it’s that we cannot rely on other people to take care of US! Many authority figures have made themselves immune to consequences, we don’t have to do that same thing. We can take responsibility of our actions, deal with the consequences and learn how to live a life of congruency. Taking responsibility for yourself and your actions doesn’t mean blaming yourself when things don’t turn out the way you wanted them to. It means asking yourself what part you had in it then taking back the fragmented parts of you. Responsibility is simply the ability to respond. It can mean asking for help AND it can mean offering help to someone in need. 

This is not to say you should search for answers when bad things happen to you because you did something bad. We don’t always know what set us up for the consequences we are experiencing now. But we can always work with what we have NOW. We are experiencing personal consequences and collective consequences at the same time. That’s a lot to take in… But when we take responsibility for our lives we reclaim our power. Not power in the sense of having power over someone else, instead the power or ENERGY that acknowledges the you are a divine being (that doesn’t make you special or different btw we all are divine). Your spirit doesn’t give a shit who you are friends with and what you do as long as you are not hemorrhaging your precious power. Incongruency creates cracks and energy leaks. Your spirit’s job is to guide you back to wholeness and integration… let it do it’s thang…